We are switching things up! Last week we contacted our friend Staffan, some of you might know him from our “2 Strangers Swap Lives Across the World for 72hrs!!” video, or from “Traveling to the “Worst” Country in Europe” and others might know him as our host for the Iceman Premier Tour.
I've heard it said before, the people who know and love the real you are the ones who matter. The rest will only care for as long as you show them what they want to see.
Thanks Staffan, this was something I really needed today. As part of one of my college assignments I had to do a presentation and I spent so long worrying about what to wear when in reality I should have been preparing for my presentation but I was more worried about how I looked. I struggle a lot with body image as I have been overweight my entire life and have literally never had anyone express interest in being in a relationship with me. Although I am female since I was about 12 years old I have grown hair on my neck and under my chin typically seen in those with high testosterone levels. I have never discussed this with anyone not even family out of pure embarrassment. Although I know I need to accept myself and am aware many other woman struggle with this too, I can't help but hate my body for it and struggle to believe I could ever be in a relationship without hiding this fact. Writing this I feel that it's a small thing. It's just some hair that you have to shave off but I still struggle to accept it as part of myself.
Reading your message put it into perspective. If the people I'm surrounded by can't accept that I grow hair on my neck, something I can't control, should I really confide in them? It might not be tomorrow or in a year but I hope that some day I muster up the courage to tell those around me this part of myself I've hidden for so long.
Love this story, Staffan! As many of us see ourselves reflected in it. Any professional dreamer wisdom on what to do when you realize your tribe has changed and you’re in search of a new one that will help you grow more?
I've heard it said before, the people who know and love the real you are the ones who matter. The rest will only care for as long as you show them what they want to see.
Thanks Staffan, this was something I really needed today. As part of one of my college assignments I had to do a presentation and I spent so long worrying about what to wear when in reality I should have been preparing for my presentation but I was more worried about how I looked. I struggle a lot with body image as I have been overweight my entire life and have literally never had anyone express interest in being in a relationship with me. Although I am female since I was about 12 years old I have grown hair on my neck and under my chin typically seen in those with high testosterone levels. I have never discussed this with anyone not even family out of pure embarrassment. Although I know I need to accept myself and am aware many other woman struggle with this too, I can't help but hate my body for it and struggle to believe I could ever be in a relationship without hiding this fact. Writing this I feel that it's a small thing. It's just some hair that you have to shave off but I still struggle to accept it as part of myself.
Reading your message put it into perspective. If the people I'm surrounded by can't accept that I grow hair on my neck, something I can't control, should I really confide in them? It might not be tomorrow or in a year but I hope that some day I muster up the courage to tell those around me this part of myself I've hidden for so long.
Thanks again Staffan!
Love this story, Staffan! As many of us see ourselves reflected in it. Any professional dreamer wisdom on what to do when you realize your tribe has changed and you’re in search of a new one that will help you grow more?